I love this so much Sarah! I said "I love you" first in my relationship and he didn't say it back for over a month, and now we're getting married. Years later, I jokingly brought it up and he said "I knew I loved you in that moment, I don't know why I didn't just say it. I just thought it was too soon." And it was only a few weeks into dating, but I knew what I felt was love. Your story is so beautiful and I wish the whole world was more like that. Love is so beautiful, I think we should all be a little more open with sharing it :)
That saying “I love you” doesn’t always have to come with weight, consequence or silently cringing. THIS! I was raised the same, 'I love you' was heavier than it should've been, especially in my native language. In English to seem to be easier.
I think her language is russian or ucranian. Because in our culture i don’t know why but sweet and sentimental words are perceived as if you're either weak or you want something and people are cautious.
I grew up in Sri Lanka and there as well the love is freely given. It was a strange observation on books and TV to see how "I Love You" is treated as a critical milestone in western relationships. Back home, relationships start with an "I Love You"! Is this directly related to collective and Individualistic societies?
I love this sentence: Back home, relationships start with an "I Love You"! <33 such a beautiful observation! and yes, I definitely believe it's the result of our 'we're all so independent, unattached and unbothered'-culture
Woowww coming from a culture that puts such heaviness on those three words this has been on my mind a lot, on a mission to spread more love! Thank you for this
Yes! "I love you" should be free from all the burdens people put on it. I am a very loving person and have a lot of love to give, but I restrain myself from saying it often because people make it seem so heavy. It's as if it's not normal to say "I love this person," especially to a male friend. People start overanalyzing, as if I mean it in a romantic way. And I'm like, It's just love: pure, free, unattached love.
I’m not sure why we are always SO connected, but it also took my ex and the father of my child a year to say I love you to me too…and he looked terrified while saying it.😭 Perhaps that was the first (or final) hint that things weren’t going to work out.😂
I really appreciated your piece about the Ich liebe dichs in our life. I am a German too and it almost feels as if I'd be soul stripteasing for someone when saying these three words. Like a confession, even a secret, when everything it actually is, is a gift, something worth sharing. This inspires me to give it away more freely. Thank you! 🌹
I love this so much Sarah! I said "I love you" first in my relationship and he didn't say it back for over a month, and now we're getting married. Years later, I jokingly brought it up and he said "I knew I loved you in that moment, I don't know why I didn't just say it. I just thought it was too soon." And it was only a few weeks into dating, but I knew what I felt was love. Your story is so beautiful and I wish the whole world was more like that. Love is so beautiful, I think we should all be a little more open with sharing it :)
This is such a wholesome story, thank you for sharing!!🥹🥹
That saying “I love you” doesn’t always have to come with weight, consequence or silently cringing. THIS! I was raised the same, 'I love you' was heavier than it should've been, especially in my native language. In English to seem to be easier.
I feel the same way, it's a lot easier for me to say 'I love you' than 'Ich liebe dich'! What's your native language? <3
I think her language is russian or ucranian. Because in our culture i don’t know why but sweet and sentimental words are perceived as if you're either weak or you want something and people are cautious.
I grew up in Sri Lanka and there as well the love is freely given. It was a strange observation on books and TV to see how "I Love You" is treated as a critical milestone in western relationships. Back home, relationships start with an "I Love You"! Is this directly related to collective and Individualistic societies?
I love this sentence: Back home, relationships start with an "I Love You"! <33 such a beautiful observation! and yes, I definitely believe it's the result of our 'we're all so independent, unattached and unbothered'-culture
Woowww coming from a culture that puts such heaviness on those three words this has been on my mind a lot, on a mission to spread more love! Thank you for this
I feel you a lot!! we really have to free our minds from the cages we grew up with!! <3 sending love to you!
So beautifully written and such a beautiful story - thank you for sharing 💗
thank you for taking the time to read!! <3
Yes! "I love you" should be free from all the burdens people put on it. I am a very loving person and have a lot of love to give, but I restrain myself from saying it often because people make it seem so heavy. It's as if it's not normal to say "I love this person," especially to a male friend. People start overanalyzing, as if I mean it in a romantic way. And I'm like, It's just love: pure, free, unattached love.
I’m not sure why we are always SO connected, but it also took my ex and the father of my child a year to say I love you to me too…and he looked terrified while saying it.😭 Perhaps that was the first (or final) hint that things weren’t going to work out.😂
I really appreciated your piece about the Ich liebe dichs in our life. I am a German too and it almost feels as if I'd be soul stripteasing for someone when saying these three words. Like a confession, even a secret, when everything it actually is, is a gift, something worth sharing. This inspires me to give it away more freely. Thank you! 🌹