I would say sometimes when you start to question every decision and action in your life, you just have to let go of the control and enjoy the moment, no matter how hard it wouldn't be...
I doubt it is the algorithm. On Wednesday, I had therapy and my therapist “assignment” for me was to do things that bring ME pleasure. The me outside of wife hood, motherhood, sisterhood, friend etc. You get the idea. It is 10:15 am where I am located. I put my baby to take a nap. And as I was breastfeeding and snuggling her (pleasure), I thought I need to go google what pleasure truly means. Like healthy, fun and delicious pleasure that just fills the soul. As I come out of my baby’s bedroom, I grab my phone and I see a little notification on this app. I click on it and the first title I see was yours. If this is not energy, God, or Universe (call it whatever you wish) I am don’t know what is. When my therapist said that to me the first thing I pictured it was exactly as your moment at the restaurant bc I was that young woman. But somehow a long the way I bought to all the things you listed that did suck out that kind of pleasure you experienced all self created. Thank you for reminding me. Thank you for wanting to flip the script. Thank you for making clear that pleasure is not something we need to wait for others to give to us. I have been coughed up on expecting that from my husband under the justification that I am a tired mom. Which I am. But I also am the only one to know what kind of pleasure fills my own soul not my husband. What a powerful message you have sent to me in the most precise moment of my life. Thank you! Keep up what you are doing bc someone like me needs to read it!
Wow Alma, your comment gave me goosebumps!!! I'm so so happy to hear that my words found you in divine timing. I hope your December and all of 2025 is filled with an abundance of pleasure!! <33
I hope so too! I am working to find other things that I find pleasurable where I live right now, in the desert of Utah, bc being from Mediterranean countries the only thing that makes me feel the best pleasure is the beach, the sun, the sand, and the amazing food. If you can help with some ideas that would be much appreciated. Bc the majority of my brain power is going to my two young kids. And I need to just be doing things that bring me pleasure as well.
For some, we are finally pushed into the life of no longer being a servant. Much of what you wrote, resonates deeply with me. I have been on my own 15 years, I no longer allow the things that were out of control to define me. In fact, I see them for what they were, clearly now. Many blessings ~
This is spectacular and terrifying (which is for a one like me, who is lost in his mind half the time, and afraid of losing himself the other half the time), a great big clue that it's right on the mark...
Your writing is spectacular. When you said That we have to hustle harder, shrink smaller, or perfect ourselves to be worthy of it. It made me think that sometimes we get so sucked in, that even if you get to that self reflecting moment, you may have to rediscover what brings you pleasure. When pleasure has been repressed, it becomes an abstract concept.
I would say sometimes when you start to question every decision and action in your life, you just have to let go of the control and enjoy the moment, no matter how hard it wouldn't be...
YES! <3
I doubt it is the algorithm. On Wednesday, I had therapy and my therapist “assignment” for me was to do things that bring ME pleasure. The me outside of wife hood, motherhood, sisterhood, friend etc. You get the idea. It is 10:15 am where I am located. I put my baby to take a nap. And as I was breastfeeding and snuggling her (pleasure), I thought I need to go google what pleasure truly means. Like healthy, fun and delicious pleasure that just fills the soul. As I come out of my baby’s bedroom, I grab my phone and I see a little notification on this app. I click on it and the first title I see was yours. If this is not energy, God, or Universe (call it whatever you wish) I am don’t know what is. When my therapist said that to me the first thing I pictured it was exactly as your moment at the restaurant bc I was that young woman. But somehow a long the way I bought to all the things you listed that did suck out that kind of pleasure you experienced all self created. Thank you for reminding me. Thank you for wanting to flip the script. Thank you for making clear that pleasure is not something we need to wait for others to give to us. I have been coughed up on expecting that from my husband under the justification that I am a tired mom. Which I am. But I also am the only one to know what kind of pleasure fills my own soul not my husband. What a powerful message you have sent to me in the most precise moment of my life. Thank you! Keep up what you are doing bc someone like me needs to read it!
Wow Alma, your comment gave me goosebumps!!! I'm so so happy to hear that my words found you in divine timing. I hope your December and all of 2025 is filled with an abundance of pleasure!! <33
I hope so too! I am working to find other things that I find pleasurable where I live right now, in the desert of Utah, bc being from Mediterranean countries the only thing that makes me feel the best pleasure is the beach, the sun, the sand, and the amazing food. If you can help with some ideas that would be much appreciated. Bc the majority of my brain power is going to my two young kids. And I need to just be doing things that bring me pleasure as well.
Bravo!
For some, we are finally pushed into the life of no longer being a servant. Much of what you wrote, resonates deeply with me. I have been on my own 15 years, I no longer allow the things that were out of control to define me. In fact, I see them for what they were, clearly now. Many blessings ~
wow, that's beautiful and powerful!! 'I no longer allow the things that were out of control to define me.' love it!! <3
With love, friend - Be free.
TOOOOOO GOOD 🫶🏻
Thank you so much!! ❤️
This is spectacular and terrifying (which is for a one like me, who is lost in his mind half the time, and afraid of losing himself the other half the time), a great big clue that it's right on the mark...
I.fucking.love.this. ♥️🔥
thank you so much!!! <33
This was amazing!!!!! Such goooooood words <3333
thank you so much for reading!!! <3
So. Much. Yes.👏 And wait, do I see Italy in your future?? (The Italian dictionary on your beach day…)
I feel like I will have to do a chapter in Italy at some point because I desperately want to learn Italian!!
"Anyway, picture this: me, covered in sand, no makeup..."
I did, wish I had been there.
Your writing is spectacular. When you said That we have to hustle harder, shrink smaller, or perfect ourselves to be worthy of it. It made me think that sometimes we get so sucked in, that even if you get to that self reflecting moment, you may have to rediscover what brings you pleasure. When pleasure has been repressed, it becomes an abstract concept.
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